Hold up, wait a minute. Let me put my 2 cents in it.

Woah! Totally forgot I have a blog, guess its time to revive it.

First up, its exam week for most colleges and universities. So good luck to ya'll and have a fun week.



On a second note, its december.. which means christmas is around the corner.. which means the year is coming to an end.. which means a new year is coming.. which also means another hard year of semester and final year.. which means graduating.. which also means everyone is gonna get older. so yea..

My Newest Toy

 

Yes, I have joined the Blackberry World! Old phone has decided to die on me so I've found its replacement. Been using it for a month now and I love how simple it is to use and its practicality. It's more than just a phone, its a tool.

BB pin: 22B01067

Recent Happenings

So its been almost 2 months since my last post. Needless to say I've been away.

Here's whats been happening lately.
1. Inti Miss Tourism Pageant.
2. Miss Borneo Beautiful International (did i get it right?)
3. The countless assignments and finals up ahead.
4. Meeting new people.
5. Paintball

Inti Miss Tourism Pageant

Shout out to my High school mate/duet partner and Miss Borneo Beautiful International 09, Chloe Lee!
We have officially conquered the stage. Our duet number was coveted and was an amazing performance.
Its an honor and privilege to have graced the stage and sing with you.
Looking forward to the next time we can do it again. (btw you looked stunning that night)
We sang the duet version of  Quando Quando Quando by Michael Buble & Nelly Furtado.
I however did a solo of Sway also by Michael Buble. I had dancers!!!

Dinner was held at Ocean Seafood Restaurant. (they have the best seafood, so they say) 
10 of us occupied a table, and we're pretty much the nosiest ones especially during lucky draw section.

 Ok, so what else happened was paintball and alot more other stuff. I'll let the pictures do the talking.

I'm thankful for the new bunch of friends, they're pretty much the ones who help me get by the boredom of college life. haha!

For your viewing pleasure.

Passenger Seat

Currently, this song is stuck in my head. Its a song that I can just listen to it over and over again especially driving at night. Which also, comes to mind whenever you are in my passenger seat.


Stephen Speaks - Passenger Seat

31 Dating Tips You Should Know!

These tips are given by a dating blogger called Erin Meanley. Get ready to take your love life to the next level!


1. If you're confused about whether a guy likes you or not, that's probably not good. Confusion in romance belongs only in romantic comedies because it suspends the plot, but suspense in real life sucks. So try not to analyze the events. The truth will reveal itself without you having to do anything.

2. Sometimes guys flirt with you or pay attention to you because it makes them feel good about themselves. (Hey, we do it, too.)

3. Even a guy who will admit that you're better looking than him should still be able to tell you you're beautiful. If he holds back in order to control the situation, or to keep you, or keep you down, he's got issues.

4. Don't help him ask you out by texting him something nice or polite. I'm glad you're more outgoing and thoughtful than he is, but he doesn't want the help.

5. Guys want to get busy more than anything. They'll say anything to close the deal.

6. It's shocking how much guys will talk about marriage. Until there's a ring on your finger, it will be better for you if you pretend you're deaf.

7. It's better not to lift a finger in the beginning.

8. In the early stages, giving him presents is too much. Generosity looks desperate to guys. You may be a great shopper and gift-wrapper; it may be his birthday and you may be wild about birthdays — even still, he'll think you're just wild about him. Too wild.

9. Guys just do not think like girls. I wish I'd had a brother. Real boys are nothing like the boys in movies.

10. They might take a decade to mature. Don't hope they'll grow up or be ready in the next six months.

11. Even if your family thinks there's going to be a marriage, don't let them spoil your guy. Yes, he's grateful you gave him your car when he moved out of NYC, but he would rather have had to work for it.

12. Learn to cook. Learn to cook well. I see now that it would have won me a lot of points. A LOT.

13. Just because he might be smarter than you or more talented at certain things doesn't mean he's your servant and won't mind doing all your homework/research/chores.

14. Guys get resentful, too.

15. You're special, unique, and important, but you're not a princess — no matter what Daddy says (although for the record, my dad calls me "Erin").

16. It's okay to say no. It's more than okay. It's always okay. If he stops calling (and many, many, many will), you're only weeding out the guys who aren't truly interested in you as a person. Time saved!

17. Playing it safe guarantees you'll have more time and energy to think about your grades or your work. Less drama in your life will always be better and healthier for you.

18. You deserve to be treated like a human being.

19. Your wants and needs are just as important as his, and if you don't express them because you think it will scare him away, then you're saying you don't count as much as he does.

20. Even sophisticated people with professional jobs can have tempers or hit you or use foul language. I've known men who dressed like diplomats but they were ugly human beings.

21. You can't force chemistry. If you like him as a friend, the attraction might grow, but if it doesn't, don't force it. And don't waste his time.

22. Ease up on the sauce. Alcohol clouds your judgment.

23. No boyfriend-girlfriend relationship starts with a 1 a.m. booty text.

24. When a guy has taken you to Applebee's five times and you say you want to treat him, he'll be psyched. But secretly he'll freak out if you take him to Ruth's Chris, even just the one teeny time. Don't try to match him one Ruth's Chris for five Applebee's. Take him out, but go to T.G.I. Friday's.

25. Women love attention. A guy needs to be pretty crazy about you in order for him to pay enough attention to make you happy long-term.

26. My mom always said, "Men don't think." I thought she meant, "They are mistaken in their thoughts." But they're just not thinking anything at all. About you. They're watching the game. That's why they haven't called.

27. There should be a medium ground between workaholism and his absolute devotion. "The knight departing for new adventures offends his lady, yet she has nothing but contempt for him if he remains at her feet" (Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex, 658).

28. Never underestimate the quality of "interesting." Men want someone interesting. They really do. Find some hobbies.

29. What are you hoping to gain by hooking up with this guy? If the answer is "him," that's a bad deal for you. "The woman gives herself, the man adds to himself by taking her" (de Beauvoir 659).

30. Expectations? They'll ruin every dating experience you have.

31. You will never understand men. Just try to understand yourself.

 

Going the distance

I just watched the movie 'Going the distance' and i must say, it is one of the best movies that i can relate to. I'm pretty sure some of you out there that can relate to it as well, that's if you're in a long distance relationship or used to be in one.

Thing about this movie is that it exactly depicts how the relationship is and the challenges couples will face. Example, the bombardment of doubts and thoughts thrown at from friends regarding the distance that will question how much you trust your partner. Indeed it is tough, believe me. I have had those questions asked and frankly speaking, if you are not tough you will succumb to the pressure. See, everybody wants to give their 2 cents and it is actually damaging psychologically. One of the most popular question would be : " aren't you afraid? she's there and you're here". Yea, questions like these and alot more are actually spirit breakers.

Its hard having all your friends being all negative about the idea of a long distance relationship. And seriously, long distance only works if you and your partner are willing to do what it takes to make it work. This is not for those who don't have their own perspective and and susceptible to the relentless negative talk and doubt from others. Allow me if you may, to give some pointers and tips based on my experience on it.

Set Boundaries
Couples, it is important to establish boundaries for the relationship. This means laying everything down on what is acceptable and unacceptable from each other. This is crucial for knowing what is expected from each other and what is of importance in the relationship. Set boundaries between lover and friends. Learn how to equally divide attention and dont let your partner feel less important. It hurts their feelings. Also learn to draw the line between contact with an ex, this is unacceptable. Though things are over and you are friends, learn where your commitment lies. Talk to your partner about this even if its tough. If you know something is not right, make it clear of the boundary between ex's and that you are in a relationship. You have to be hard on this because one small mistake could either make or break.

Communicate
Do i need to say more? Communicate with each other as often as possible. Talk about your day, feelings and what not. Communication is the basis of interaction between couples, and it lets each other share whats on their minds. Call each other before going to bed, or first thing in the morning. Call them for no reason at all or just to say you miss them. Simple gestures like this goes a long way for a relationship. Be careful not to be too clingy by calling every 10 mins or or a 20 times in an hour. Space is needed as well.

Space
As mentioned above, space is important for a couple to still have their own 'me' time. Sometimes, its best to just let each other to their own things and not to drown them with constant questions like "what are you doing?" and stuff. Its not necessary to know every detail of the things each other do, but it is necessary to tell each other and inform early as to avoid misunderstanding or conflicts. If its one thing i've learned, do not, i repeat, DO NOT ask too much. It annoys them. Let them open up and share it to you. Do your own things, be yourself, have fun but do not go to far with it.

Trust
Long distance relationship especially, requires a lot of trust for each other. Since you both are in a different place. Trust completely and leave no room for doubt. Always assure each other, not just assuming that your partner trusts each other. Do things that earn each others trust because trust is given, not made. Of course once awhile we will be in doubt and insecure about situations that happen. Talk about it and reassure each other.

Honesty
Be honest in everything. No matter how difficult it is to say or just to avoid conflicts and arguments, you should always be honest in everything. Do not do things behind each others back. This is unfair. Unless you are planning a surprise. Leaving things unsaid creates room for doubt and suspicion. This could effect the relationship ultimately. It doesn't hurt to be honest who you're with and what are you doing. Just explain to your partner.

Intimacy
Its hard to be intimate being away. However, make the effort to be intimate either by talking or sending text msgs. Intimacy builds along the time and gradually grows. A good example would be to talk before going to bed or a text in the morning and stuff. Show your affection in any way possible. Tell them you love them and miss them. FDA (facebook display of affection) is a great tool a well.

Commitment
Commitment is important. Be committed to each other, the relationship and make the effort to work things out. Always remember, it takes 2 hands to clap. Therefore it takes 2 people to make a relationship work and not just one person doing all the job. Solves problems together and dont just bail when it gets tough.

Show appreciation
The little things you do for each other should always be appreciated. Its not the drastic things done that should. Partners want to feel appreciated and knowing that their sacrifice and efforts are all worth it. Remember, not everything evolves around you and gratitude is important.

Do things together
Make a date night if possible. Have dinner together over the webcam, watch a movie at the same time and talk about it. Stuff like that is a great way to bond even though the distance.

Give surprises
Surprise each other occasionally. like plan a visit or buy some gifts over the time so when you both meet up, you can give a surprise present to them. Be creative, think of ways to surprise each other. Dont be passive and just wait and expect something.

Be faithful and loyal
Yes, this is important. You may find yourself feeling lonely and want the attention and affection of your partner. This is where your loyalty and love for each other is put to the test. There will be people around you that will try to influence your thinking, or try to fill that gap in which your partner is not available. Its not the reason for you to flirt. Ultimately it comes down to how much you love each other.

Be Understanding
You should know that your partner can't always be there when you need them. Be understanding of the situations. Or even if there is something that happened. Dont be quick to conclude and get all worked up. Arguments dont solve anything but instead will turn relationships sour. Talk about any disagreements or what upsets you and find a solution. Breaking up is not an answer.

Love
Needless to say, love each other unconditionally. Love them for their good and bad. Accept every flaw and short coming they have. Love them even when they make you happy or sad. Just love each other, and you'll find things will work out and be alright.

Last advice, be strong and hold on to each other. Long distance is but a phase and will not be forever. 

A sentimental moment

I had a sentimental moment,

You came across my mind.

I suddenly miss you

but you're hard to find

I know it sounds foolish

I know I shouldn't cry

But i reminisce every moment

each night before i close my eyes

Since the day you left

My life is never the same

I yearn to hear your voice

the comfort of your embrace

Friends say its not worth the wait

that i will find better one

But I can't love another

like how i loved you girl

I may not be the one

you call out to each time

I may not be the one

to give you a kiss good night

Maybe you've lost your love

or feelings that reside

But if there's an inkling and im in your heart

would you please give me a sign.

Now you may be happy

and i am out of your mind

I'll wish the best for everything

and happiness the days of your life

I will not beg for your return

unless you willingly decide

But know this you can always

the door remains open inside.

I'll continue living my life

as you continue yours too
I am doing fine and recovering
Don't worry, ill be alright

Perhaps one day if fate allows

we'll have a reconcile

You're always in my heart
my commitment never changed
my faith remains the same

my prayers go forth to you

And if I may please let me say

I love you baby, goodbye.

A poem i wrote, my sentiments inside.