My Newest Toy

 

Yes, I have joined the Blackberry World! Old phone has decided to die on me so I've found its replacement. Been using it for a month now and I love how simple it is to use and its practicality. It's more than just a phone, its a tool.

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Recent Happenings

So its been almost 2 months since my last post. Needless to say I've been away.

Here's whats been happening lately.
1. Inti Miss Tourism Pageant.
2. Miss Borneo Beautiful International (did i get it right?)
3. The countless assignments and finals up ahead.
4. Meeting new people.
5. Paintball

Inti Miss Tourism Pageant

Shout out to my High school mate/duet partner and Miss Borneo Beautiful International 09, Chloe Lee!
We have officially conquered the stage. Our duet number was coveted and was an amazing performance.
Its an honor and privilege to have graced the stage and sing with you.
Looking forward to the next time we can do it again. (btw you looked stunning that night)
We sang the duet version of  Quando Quando Quando by Michael Buble & Nelly Furtado.
I however did a solo of Sway also by Michael Buble. I had dancers!!!

Dinner was held at Ocean Seafood Restaurant. (they have the best seafood, so they say) 
10 of us occupied a table, and we're pretty much the nosiest ones especially during lucky draw section.

 Ok, so what else happened was paintball and alot more other stuff. I'll let the pictures do the talking.

I'm thankful for the new bunch of friends, they're pretty much the ones who help me get by the boredom of college life. haha!

For your viewing pleasure.

Passenger Seat

Currently, this song is stuck in my head. Its a song that I can just listen to it over and over again especially driving at night. Which also, comes to mind whenever you are in my passenger seat.


Stephen Speaks - Passenger Seat

31 Dating Tips You Should Know!

These tips are given by a dating blogger called Erin Meanley. Get ready to take your love life to the next level!


1. If you're confused about whether a guy likes you or not, that's probably not good. Confusion in romance belongs only in romantic comedies because it suspends the plot, but suspense in real life sucks. So try not to analyze the events. The truth will reveal itself without you having to do anything.

2. Sometimes guys flirt with you or pay attention to you because it makes them feel good about themselves. (Hey, we do it, too.)

3. Even a guy who will admit that you're better looking than him should still be able to tell you you're beautiful. If he holds back in order to control the situation, or to keep you, or keep you down, he's got issues.

4. Don't help him ask you out by texting him something nice or polite. I'm glad you're more outgoing and thoughtful than he is, but he doesn't want the help.

5. Guys want to get busy more than anything. They'll say anything to close the deal.

6. It's shocking how much guys will talk about marriage. Until there's a ring on your finger, it will be better for you if you pretend you're deaf.

7. It's better not to lift a finger in the beginning.

8. In the early stages, giving him presents is too much. Generosity looks desperate to guys. You may be a great shopper and gift-wrapper; it may be his birthday and you may be wild about birthdays — even still, he'll think you're just wild about him. Too wild.

9. Guys just do not think like girls. I wish I'd had a brother. Real boys are nothing like the boys in movies.

10. They might take a decade to mature. Don't hope they'll grow up or be ready in the next six months.

11. Even if your family thinks there's going to be a marriage, don't let them spoil your guy. Yes, he's grateful you gave him your car when he moved out of NYC, but he would rather have had to work for it.

12. Learn to cook. Learn to cook well. I see now that it would have won me a lot of points. A LOT.

13. Just because he might be smarter than you or more talented at certain things doesn't mean he's your servant and won't mind doing all your homework/research/chores.

14. Guys get resentful, too.

15. You're special, unique, and important, but you're not a princess — no matter what Daddy says (although for the record, my dad calls me "Erin").

16. It's okay to say no. It's more than okay. It's always okay. If he stops calling (and many, many, many will), you're only weeding out the guys who aren't truly interested in you as a person. Time saved!

17. Playing it safe guarantees you'll have more time and energy to think about your grades or your work. Less drama in your life will always be better and healthier for you.

18. You deserve to be treated like a human being.

19. Your wants and needs are just as important as his, and if you don't express them because you think it will scare him away, then you're saying you don't count as much as he does.

20. Even sophisticated people with professional jobs can have tempers or hit you or use foul language. I've known men who dressed like diplomats but they were ugly human beings.

21. You can't force chemistry. If you like him as a friend, the attraction might grow, but if it doesn't, don't force it. And don't waste his time.

22. Ease up on the sauce. Alcohol clouds your judgment.

23. No boyfriend-girlfriend relationship starts with a 1 a.m. booty text.

24. When a guy has taken you to Applebee's five times and you say you want to treat him, he'll be psyched. But secretly he'll freak out if you take him to Ruth's Chris, even just the one teeny time. Don't try to match him one Ruth's Chris for five Applebee's. Take him out, but go to T.G.I. Friday's.

25. Women love attention. A guy needs to be pretty crazy about you in order for him to pay enough attention to make you happy long-term.

26. My mom always said, "Men don't think." I thought she meant, "They are mistaken in their thoughts." But they're just not thinking anything at all. About you. They're watching the game. That's why they haven't called.

27. There should be a medium ground between workaholism and his absolute devotion. "The knight departing for new adventures offends his lady, yet she has nothing but contempt for him if he remains at her feet" (Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex, 658).

28. Never underestimate the quality of "interesting." Men want someone interesting. They really do. Find some hobbies.

29. What are you hoping to gain by hooking up with this guy? If the answer is "him," that's a bad deal for you. "The woman gives herself, the man adds to himself by taking her" (de Beauvoir 659).

30. Expectations? They'll ruin every dating experience you have.

31. You will never understand men. Just try to understand yourself.

 

Going the distance

I just watched the movie 'Going the distance' and i must say, it is one of the best movies that i can relate to. I'm pretty sure some of you out there that can relate to it as well, that's if you're in a long distance relationship or used to be in one.

Thing about this movie is that it exactly depicts how the relationship is and the challenges couples will face. Example, the bombardment of doubts and thoughts thrown at from friends regarding the distance that will question how much you trust your partner. Indeed it is tough, believe me. I have had those questions asked and frankly speaking, if you are not tough you will succumb to the pressure. See, everybody wants to give their 2 cents and it is actually damaging psychologically. One of the most popular question would be : " aren't you afraid? she's there and you're here". Yea, questions like these and alot more are actually spirit breakers.

Its hard having all your friends being all negative about the idea of a long distance relationship. And seriously, long distance only works if you and your partner are willing to do what it takes to make it work. This is not for those who don't have their own perspective and and susceptible to the relentless negative talk and doubt from others. Allow me if you may, to give some pointers and tips based on my experience on it.

Set Boundaries
Couples, it is important to establish boundaries for the relationship. This means laying everything down on what is acceptable and unacceptable from each other. This is crucial for knowing what is expected from each other and what is of importance in the relationship. Set boundaries between lover and friends. Learn how to equally divide attention and dont let your partner feel less important. It hurts their feelings. Also learn to draw the line between contact with an ex, this is unacceptable. Though things are over and you are friends, learn where your commitment lies. Talk to your partner about this even if its tough. If you know something is not right, make it clear of the boundary between ex's and that you are in a relationship. You have to be hard on this because one small mistake could either make or break.

Communicate
Do i need to say more? Communicate with each other as often as possible. Talk about your day, feelings and what not. Communication is the basis of interaction between couples, and it lets each other share whats on their minds. Call each other before going to bed, or first thing in the morning. Call them for no reason at all or just to say you miss them. Simple gestures like this goes a long way for a relationship. Be careful not to be too clingy by calling every 10 mins or or a 20 times in an hour. Space is needed as well.

Space
As mentioned above, space is important for a couple to still have their own 'me' time. Sometimes, its best to just let each other to their own things and not to drown them with constant questions like "what are you doing?" and stuff. Its not necessary to know every detail of the things each other do, but it is necessary to tell each other and inform early as to avoid misunderstanding or conflicts. If its one thing i've learned, do not, i repeat, DO NOT ask too much. It annoys them. Let them open up and share it to you. Do your own things, be yourself, have fun but do not go to far with it.

Trust
Long distance relationship especially, requires a lot of trust for each other. Since you both are in a different place. Trust completely and leave no room for doubt. Always assure each other, not just assuming that your partner trusts each other. Do things that earn each others trust because trust is given, not made. Of course once awhile we will be in doubt and insecure about situations that happen. Talk about it and reassure each other.

Honesty
Be honest in everything. No matter how difficult it is to say or just to avoid conflicts and arguments, you should always be honest in everything. Do not do things behind each others back. This is unfair. Unless you are planning a surprise. Leaving things unsaid creates room for doubt and suspicion. This could effect the relationship ultimately. It doesn't hurt to be honest who you're with and what are you doing. Just explain to your partner.

Intimacy
Its hard to be intimate being away. However, make the effort to be intimate either by talking or sending text msgs. Intimacy builds along the time and gradually grows. A good example would be to talk before going to bed or a text in the morning and stuff. Show your affection in any way possible. Tell them you love them and miss them. FDA (facebook display of affection) is a great tool a well.

Commitment
Commitment is important. Be committed to each other, the relationship and make the effort to work things out. Always remember, it takes 2 hands to clap. Therefore it takes 2 people to make a relationship work and not just one person doing all the job. Solves problems together and dont just bail when it gets tough.

Show appreciation
The little things you do for each other should always be appreciated. Its not the drastic things done that should. Partners want to feel appreciated and knowing that their sacrifice and efforts are all worth it. Remember, not everything evolves around you and gratitude is important.

Do things together
Make a date night if possible. Have dinner together over the webcam, watch a movie at the same time and talk about it. Stuff like that is a great way to bond even though the distance.

Give surprises
Surprise each other occasionally. like plan a visit or buy some gifts over the time so when you both meet up, you can give a surprise present to them. Be creative, think of ways to surprise each other. Dont be passive and just wait and expect something.

Be faithful and loyal
Yes, this is important. You may find yourself feeling lonely and want the attention and affection of your partner. This is where your loyalty and love for each other is put to the test. There will be people around you that will try to influence your thinking, or try to fill that gap in which your partner is not available. Its not the reason for you to flirt. Ultimately it comes down to how much you love each other.

Be Understanding
You should know that your partner can't always be there when you need them. Be understanding of the situations. Or even if there is something that happened. Dont be quick to conclude and get all worked up. Arguments dont solve anything but instead will turn relationships sour. Talk about any disagreements or what upsets you and find a solution. Breaking up is not an answer.

Love
Needless to say, love each other unconditionally. Love them for their good and bad. Accept every flaw and short coming they have. Love them even when they make you happy or sad. Just love each other, and you'll find things will work out and be alright.

Last advice, be strong and hold on to each other. Long distance is but a phase and will not be forever. 

A sentimental moment

I had a sentimental moment,

You came across my mind.

I suddenly miss you

but you're hard to find

I know it sounds foolish

I know I shouldn't cry

But i reminisce every moment

each night before i close my eyes

Since the day you left

My life is never the same

I yearn to hear your voice

the comfort of your embrace

Friends say its not worth the wait

that i will find better one

But I can't love another

like how i loved you girl

I may not be the one

you call out to each time

I may not be the one

to give you a kiss good night

Maybe you've lost your love

or feelings that reside

But if there's an inkling and im in your heart

would you please give me a sign.

Now you may be happy

and i am out of your mind

I'll wish the best for everything

and happiness the days of your life

I will not beg for your return

unless you willingly decide

But know this you can always

the door remains open inside.

I'll continue living my life

as you continue yours too
I am doing fine and recovering
Don't worry, ill be alright

Perhaps one day if fate allows

we'll have a reconcile

You're always in my heart
my commitment never changed
my faith remains the same

my prayers go forth to you

And if I may please let me say

I love you baby, goodbye.

A poem i wrote, my sentiments inside.

It's my birthday!

Special shout out to some people who has made my birthday celebration last saturday the 4th of september a great one. Vivian Wong, Jennifer Yap, Selina Fung, Fatt Toi, Francis Yap, Tammy Siew & Husband Sam, Vincent Pang, Jessica, My Brother, Bryan Ho, Tian Loong, Ah Kit, Makoto, Edward Ken and some other people i have met that night.

YOU GUYS ROCK!!!!
Thank you so very much for making this year a great celebration. Despite the disappointments and heartache i've faced in the earlier weeks, you guys really made my night amazing. Although i was piss drunk, i had fun! I wonder how things would have been should the tragedy never happened. Hmmm...

I opened my facebook and I had 160 posts on my wall. 160!! its like the most i've ever had. WOOT!!
Thanks a million you guys! I appreciate you all for the posts, calls, sms, emails and fb msgs that was sent no matter where you were. Overseas, local or what not.
 

Surprise 1,
Vincent and Selina walked in to Firefly with a birthday cake. That caught me off guard. And i heard that there was something else instead but screw it. Thank you tho, for the cake. Its really thoughtful of you. You know who you are.

Funny thing was, i cant even remember what did i wish for that night. I wished again yesterday, but i still cant remember what did i wish for again. I'll wish again now.

Surprise 2,

Dad came home with a pair of new shoes. Adidas Gazelle. I never really wear adidas, and i never owned one either. Thanks Dad!

To sum it all up, I had a blast. I wish you were there to celebrate with me. Yes, YOU. The best birthday gift, would be YOU. Cheers ya'll!

Upcoming Events

Thank God the week is done. However, I dread the days to come actually.
I'll be reminded of a past that would once again stick a knife through my windpipe.

First up, Inti Mooncake Festival BBQ Night is happening today. RM5 for all you can eat, pretty good deal isn't it? Only drawback is the prohibition of a 6 pack or hard liquor.

Next is my birthday celebration happening tomorrow night at Firefly. Never tried it but I think it will be fun. Have few friends joining and celebrating with me. I appreciate it much peeps.

Sunday, which is the 5th will be difficult to get by. Why? because its our 9th month but now its just gonna be me flying solo. Had something planned before but oh well its all just a dream.

Monday, my birthday. But i have management test on that day. Thanks for such a 'lovely' present.

Lets see how these events play up. Party up!!

-wishing you could be there tho and all we've planned-

Your guide to Ah Bengs / Ah Lians

How to spot an Ah Beng / Ah Lian (also called jiao bet zai/moi)

So here's the deal. Everywhere we walk in kk we are bound to spot a couple of ah bengs/ah lians gallivanting around with a certain stride/fashion/hairstyle or pattern. These people are the typical chinese type, aged between 13 to god knws how long. I find them to be the biggest joke since the creation of "your mama's so fat" jokes. Take the time to spot one and have a good laugh. (unless of course you're dating one or have a relative that is one) Please, do not mock their shortcomings for they have not broaden their scope of style and still remain in the trend that's been famous years back.

For Ah Bengs:
1. They are typically with bright colored hair. Colors such as gold, orange, bright light brown, blonde highlights are the color of choice.
2. Usually donning a standard hairdo. Puffy tops and back, with a fringe pulled to either side.
3. Can be seen wearing tight outfits with wierd printing, something just seems out of place even if its just jeans and a nice shirt. Oh wait, its the hair!
4. Trance, techno and rave is the music of choice. Can be heard when driving past with the window down.
5. They have a certain stride and air in them. Almost like they think they're cool and gangsta.
6. Language proficiency in english and malay is limited. But they talk out loud with streaks of fluent foul languages in their mother tongue.
7. They have no respect for anything or anyone. As if the world bows down in awe of their stupidity.
8. Hang out spots include dodgy pubs at lintas, cyber cafes, or even ah beng infested cafes. 2 birds of a feather flock together.
9. Usually showing dominance over their female counterparts. As if having them is a status upgrade, and they will try anything to bag a hot chick. Can be classed as a heart breaker as they shift from one girl to another in a matter of days or weeks.
10. They have long fingernails. Usually the thumb or pinky finger. Purpose unknown.
11. Fighting is a past time. Every ah beng wants to be or is a gangster. they would even harm a lady.
12. Negotiating terms are almost non-existent. Fists first, talk later and swear after.
13. Favourite songs to karaoke are all the sad sappy chinese songs.
14. Usually jobless, odd jobs or just living off parents money. Education zero with a bleak future.
15. Can be seen using fake products ranging from wallets to perfumes.
16. Conversations are always about a girl, their car and what not.

For Ah Lians:
1. Cam-whoring is a talent. Can be seen taking pictures of self at anywhere from the toilet or inside a cinema to the car or anywhere which pleases the mood.
2. Like the male, hair colors are brown, orange, copper. however do not mistake any girl for them.
3. Usually seen in shorts, or posses a weird fashion sense.
4. The females usually have a counterpart who is a full fledge ah beng. and can be given the impression as being a pet being controlled. however, they are fond of it.
5. They can be fairly shy and timid, unlike the loud males.
6. However unlike the males, they prefer a more upscale destination instead of dodgy clubs. But they can still be seen accompanying their counterparts there.
7. Can be seen usually at places like Yoyo, Old town, Upperstar, Citymall, Wisma Merdeka, 1 Borneo and Suria especially on weekends where the crowds are of the same type.
8. Most of them idolize few male singers like Lee Hom, JJ Lin, Jay Chou. Don't be surprised if they can remember an old song title and lyrics or their bio but get your birthday wrong or even important events.
9. They get all bubbly at the sight of a good looking guy or the attention from a rich dude.
10. Somehow they know every girl or guy and who they have dated. Bitching about others is also a talent and past time.
11. If you want to date one, make sure you have the capabilities.
12. They have a short interest span and can change counterparts at a very short time.
13. Should you include them in your future, be advised and think over. That it is not of their concern but the present is.
14. Like the males, few of them have a good command in specific language.

If you aspire to be one, this would greatly benefit you.

- This is meant for educational/ humour purposes only. Any resemblance to real persons, living or dead is purely coincidental.

Woot!! Paintball Rocks!

Ok, so im done being sappy.

Moving on to the more chun part. Paintball!

Tried out the arena at Suria yesterday and i must say, for a paintball arena at a shopping mall it is not bad.
1st attempt at paintball and now im addicted to it. Got a headshot, one on my ring finger and another near my neck. Mind you, the adrenaline rush from it really is exhilarating.

Now i live to suffer the leg pains and muscle sores from all the crouching and intense movement. Then again, who cares about that pain. Think ill invest in a paintball gun and use a certain individual's picture as target practice. Woot!

The things i'll never get to say.

First off, thank you for stopping by.

Its been a while since i've wanted to start blogging so here it is.

Allow me to be sappy for a moment.
If you're reading this, i dedicate this to you.
 

It's been 2 weeks, and i have to say it has been the toughest period of my life so far. Have you ever had a situation explode right before you and all the drama that continues along with it in the days to come? I have. And i swear its not the best moments i had.

Do you remember the days when we started out and along the time our relationship grew. The nights we would hang on the phone and talk for hours before going to bed, we would laugh at anything. I remember how you laugh and that sweet smile you gave me when i look into your eyes. How my hands are held in yours and the gentle hug. Do you remember this phrase you said: " tho you are not the first, but you will be the last" " i choose to grow old with you"

Looking back at our pictures, i can't help but smile and reminisce those sweet and happy moments that we shared. All the promises we made and the plans we had for the future. For once, i finally knew what love meant and how its supposed to be. The love you gave me and the care you've shown has made a great impact on my life and i know i can never thank you enough.

These past 8 mths have been the best moments of my life and deeply treasured memories. Like that time we fell on the floor and sat silent for awhile then burst out laughing. Or the time we talked for hours just laughing at nothing. Everything we did, all the first times we had and the memories we share, will forever be engraved in me.

Though im constantly occupied with workloads and assignments now, somehow i know that you are always there to support and encourage me no matter what i endeavor. As i will also do the same.

And although we have went our separate ways, and you may have someone else in your life in such short period. I still care about you and will always be a part of me. I wish the best to you both. You look great together. Remember tho, infidelity catches up and it will be a matter of time till it comes to light. Cherish the ones that love and care about you, appreciate them for they will never know it.

Before i end, I am truly sorry and apologize if i have in anyway hurt your feelings, or made you angry at me should you hate me of the things ive said and done. Ill be a friend you can rely on. And if fate allows it, someday we'll be together again. Take care my beloved, God bless.